I’ll be honest: I am exhausted. Worn out. Dazed. Now that I’m full term, I’ve slowed down even more than I had before. But in effort to keep things light-hearted and fun, I wanted to share some outtakes from recent posts and offer some much-needed advice of things you should not say to your pregnant friends. Trust me, they’ll thank you.
1. “You’re still here?” / “You haven’t had that baby yet?”
I heard this no less than five times just today, and while I wasn’t offended or annoyed at people’s curiosity, I could see this getting old quickly. Trust me: no one is more ready than me not to be at the office waddling around like a duck.
Instead try: “How are you feeling, mama?!”
Hah. I get it! You’re attempting to make a cutesy comment about my gigantic baby belly. I realize I’m large, but those three sonograms I’ve had pretty much ruled out that I’m carrying more than one baby. Please just don’t comment on a pregnant woman’s size, unless it’s a genuine compliment!
Instead try: “You are looking great!”
I didn’t realize you were an OB! Thanks for assessing my due date by giving me a once over.
Instead try: “Hang in there. Baby will be here soon!”
Bah! That’s a good one. Between peeing 5-6 times a night, being woken up by baby kicks and Braxton-Hicks contractions, and general baby anxiety, I’m certainly resting up!
Instead try: “You are going to be such a great mom!”
Unless you’re going to tell me about your miraculous five hour labor and delivery that was completely pain-free, please just don’t. Horror stories do nothing to encourage a mom who is about to give birth!
Try instead: “Don’t stress. You’re going to do great!”
I know people mean well, but encouraging words like “you look great!” earn you way more brownie points with pregnant ladies than your horror stories!